With college comes a whole new set of temptations. Pretty girls and handsome guys who just seem so charming and nice. "Sure they're not Christians, but is it that big of a deal?" Simply put, it is.
II Corinthians 6:14 says, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" There are several problems that come with dating or courting an unbeliever. 1) They may cause you to lose your purity. People that aren't saved don't see the problem with having physical relationships outside of marriage. I Corinthians 6:18 says, "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." 2) They may cause you to leave church. Someone who is not saved will not necessarily respect your Sunday commitment to church. Instead, they may want to go on a date, watch football, or do something else. Once you start skipping church, it's not too long before it becomes a habit. Hebrews 10:25 says, "Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching." 3) They WILL cause division on how to raise your children. Since the eventual result of dating/courting SHOULD be marriage, and the eventual result of marriage is usually children, you will run into more problems here. An unsaved spouse will not see the benefit/necessity of things like family devotions, discipline, Christian education, and Sunday School. Proverbs 22:6 says,"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." If a child does not have a proper Christian home, then they are much less likely to be close to God when they are older. There are no benefits to marrying someone who is not saved, only heartaches. Besides, an unsaved person lacks the qualities that we should be looking for in a future spouse. Qualities like a good relationship with God, a strong testimony, and a burden for souls. Do your future a favour- don't even romantically consider someone that is not saved. -Glen p.s. Merry Christmas! |