|II Corinthians 6:14 says, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"|
There are several problems that come with dating or courting an unbeliever.
1) They may cause you to lose your purity.
People that aren't saved don't see the problem with having physical relationships outside of marriage. I Corinthians 6:18 says, "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."
2) They may cause you to leave church.
Someone who is not saved will not necessarily respect your Sunday commitment to church. Instead, they may want to go on a date, watch football, or do something else. Once you start skipping church, it's not too long before it becomes a habit. Hebrews 10:25 says, "Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching."
3) They WILL cause division on how to raise your children.
Since the eventual result of dating/courting SHOULD be marriage, and the eventual result of marriage is usually children, you will run into more problems here. An unsaved spouse will not see the benefit/necessity of things like family devotions, discipline, Christian education, and Sunday School. Proverbs 22:6 says,"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." If a child does not have a proper Christian home, then they are much less likely to be close to God when they are older.
There are no benefits to marrying someone who is not saved, only heartaches. Besides, an unsaved person lacks the qualities that we should be looking for in a future spouse. Qualities like a good relationship with God, a strong testimony, and a burden for souls.
Do your future a favour- don't even romantically consider someone that is not saved.
p.s. Merry Christmas!
Monday, December 20, 2010
Wow. I can't believe that it's been a month. The past month has had its ups and downs. On the brighter side, I finished/passed/survived my first semester at college!
With college comes a whole new set of temptations. Pretty girls and handsome guys who just seem so charming and nice. "Sure they're not Christians, but is it that big of a deal?" Simply put, it is.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Saturday, November 6, 2010
It's not about lack of commitment, it's about lack of time. Between college, church, work helping in our Christian school, and life in general, I have been CRAZY busy. Please bear with me. I have some ideas for posts that I just have to finalize and they should be good to go.
Part of the reason that I have been so busy is that I have been working on a missions project. Our youth group is planning to enter a 100-mile ultra marathon in May of 2011, raising funds for a missionary in Haiti. There are eight of us, and our goal is to raise $100,000, so you can see where the busy comes in. Our blog for that is 100milesformissions.blogspot.com
I haven't forgotten about you guys, or the impact that this blog has had on my life.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
People always ask me what my plans are for dating. Each time I tell them: "I don't plan to date, I plan to court." They then proceed to tell me that there's basically no difference. So I went to the dictionary.
Dating: (verb) "going out with someone in whom one is romantically interested"
Courting: (verb) "being involved with romantically, typically with the intention of marrying"
There still doesn't appear to be much difference, except for the last few words of the definition.
Let's look at the definition for courting again:
Courting: "being involved with romantically, typically with the intention of marrying"
There's the big difference right there. Dating is actually VERY different than courting. If you think back to the stories that your parents tell you, they might tell you about all the different guys or girls that they "dated", but how often do they tell you about the multiple people that they "courted"? Dating is temporary, but courting usually ends up in marriage.
Isn't that the way that it was meant to be? Proverbs 4:23 says: "Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."
Do you really want to go second hand shopping? Or do you want God to GIVE you brand new?
I'm going to court, not date. Next time someone asks you, take some time to think. Could courting be right for me?
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
A good friendship is essential to any relationship. Someday, you should marry your best friend. Let's look at some of the characteristics of a good friendship.
1. A friend is kind
No one wants to be friends with someone who isn't kind.
2. A friend is faithful
Do you stick with your friends, even when it's hard?
3. A friend makes you a better person
Do you make those around you better?
4. A friend is knit to your heart
Just like Jonathan and David, true friends know each other's hearts and feelings.
5. A friend can share friends
Jesus referred to Lazarus as "Our friend."
6. A friend expresses love
It isn't about saying "I love you", it's about living it.
7. A friend is willing to wound
Tough love is sometimes necessary to prevent them from getting hurt.
8. A friend strengthens others in God
Do you point others to God, or pull them away from Him?
9. A friend is willing to be second
Your relationship with God should always be first, and a friend should not prevent that.
10. A friend rejoices in blessings
Don't be jealous, be happy for them
11. A friend praises his friends
Don't seek to get glory for yourself. Praise your friends, and they will praise you.
12. A friend doesn't overstay his welcome
Too much of a good thing, no matter how good, is still too much.
13. A friend gives biblical counsel
You don't know everything. Use the best tool you have to help.
14. A friend is sensitive
Know what your friends are dealing with in their lives and act accordingly.
15. A friend sharpens
Influence those around you to stand up for what is right.
16. A friend helps through trials
Be there for your friends when they're going through a tough time.
Try to put these principles into practice in your friendships, they'll work wonders.
(Points are from "Just Friends" by Cary Schmidt and Mike Ray)