Thursday, March 4, 2010

Can't Think Of A Good Title...

I've done a lot of thinking lately about this whole single and waiting on God thing. I've had some conversations about dating that have really had me asking myself why. Why don't I date? Why do I want to save my first kiss for my wedding day? Why am I staying single when there are plenty of guys that I could date? Why do I sit and watch my friends date guy after guy while I've never dated anyone? Why do I keep myself emotionally and psychically pure for one guy?

It makes me wonder...what is your reason for waiting? Is it just because your parents don't want you to date? Are you just trying to save yourself from the hurt that comes with dating and heartbreak? Or is it because you want to honor your future spouse and glorify God? It is good to obey your parents, and its even a wise choice to save yourself from the pain of dating and heartbreak...but the number one reason should be because its what God wants and it honors your future spouse.

This staying single and waiting for one person isn't considered normal or good in the world. In fact, if you've never dated or now choose not to, then people think there is something wrong with you. The "normal" 19 year old girl is either obsessing over the guy shes currently 'in like' with or crying over the last guy that broke her heart. I mean, you are just plain weird if you make it to almost 20 years old and have never even been on a date or kissed a guy. lol

I think that is hard for me sometimes. Loneliness is a hard part of waiting, but hearing what people say about you is also really hard. It's only by the grace of God that Christian young people are about to remain pure and wait for the one God made for them. And you should all be proud of yourselves and of God working through you. Your future spouses will be so proud of you for waiting for them.

I'm so very thankful that God has given me the strength to remain pure and wait for Him to bring my husband to me. And thank about it...what a gift that will be for our future spouses!!

Okay, so I'm not sure what the point of this post is. I just had all these little thoughts in my head and figured I should get them out of there. LOL! Hope it wasn't to confusing for ya! :)


HIS daughter said...

Truly what an awesome thing it will be to be able to look into my husbands eyes one day and let him know that I have saved myself for him.
Truly though, I was one of those girls that was constantly "in like" and did not trust the Lord with the pen to my love story.
Thankfully the Lord did a great work in my heart and I committed to not only be physically pure (I am completely pure in that way thank the Lord!) but to be emotionally pure and to GUARD my heart.
I realized that no mere guy would ever be able to complete my ONLY JESUS CHRIST.
What a difference that mindset made in my life! :)

VJ-Writes said...

Makes perfect sense to me:)


Tiffany said...

So true! I've been called a freak for wanting to save my first kiss for my wedding day! Great Post :)

ERICA said...

I find it very encouraging that you are almost 20 years old and have never dated anybody (or kissed for that matter.) How I wish I would have trusted God in this area of my life sooner. It would have saved me from a lot of heartache! But, I still thank the Lord for the experiences He's allowed me to have b/c I have grown SO much from them.
But from reading the books by the Ludys (thanks by the way, for introducing them to me from your blog,) I have been even more encouraged to save myself for my future husband and to spend this time while I'm single, just getting to know the Lord better and pleasing Him.
I think that any man that is lucky enough to find a wife that has saved herself for him has found a REAL treasure! But just stay faithful to the Lord and He'll pilot you!
Thanks for posting this!
In Christ,

Keith and Julie Loveless said...

God will bring along the right man in His time-table anyway. All the dating in the world won't make it happen. In fact, you run the risk of marrying the wrong guy or the right guy at the wrong time. My hubby was my first beau, my first time holding hands, my first kiss... and I was 27! Hang in there. It's worth the wait! So many young people don't think far enough into the future. I couldn't imagine having memories of other boys/men to compete with my hubby. He is my one and only, my hero.

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